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 Post subject: Double life
PostPosted: Sat Dec 03, 2011 1:53 am 

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Im using an alt so you all dont judge me ( even though you will say you wont ).

I lie to my girlfriend to come on here.

She saw the way I speak to some of you and how some of you speak to me( ;) ) and she thought something might have been happening.
So she made me swear I wouldn't RP anymore...

If I own up she'll freak out but I have a life and friends here.

So my friends, if I tell her I love her, is this lying worth it?


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 Post subject: Re: Double life
PostPosted: Sat Dec 03, 2011 5:37 pm 

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I'd ask what's more important to you:

1) Your life and friends online?
2) Your relationship?

Lying is never really a good thing, especially doing it to the one that you "love."

Just sayin'.

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 Post subject: Re: Double life
PostPosted: Sun Dec 04, 2011 7:23 am 
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Well, I dunno who you are, so I dunno exactly what you were up to. RP and chat are two different things, although the border is kinda vague. I'll toss my two squigs in.

The thing I'd say (Disclaimer: I'm not entirely the one to ask), is this: Is she over reacting?

She obviously is threatened by what it is you are doing, but is it a little playing around in chat, or is it an RP relationship, that might look like you're cheating?

If she IS over reacting, REALLY, then if she does that for this, what will she do in other situations?

I'm not trying to imply she is, I don't know her, you, or the situation. This is something you gotta figure out.

Boils down to JMP's comment, really. If you really love her, then do what you gotta do. Wish you luck, whatever you are gonna do, and tell the truth, whatever you decide.

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:shifty:

Im using an alt so you all dont judge me ( even though you will say you wont ).

I lie to my girlfriend to come on here.

She saw the way I speak to some of you and how some of you speak to me( ;) ) and she thought something might have been happening.
So she made me swear I wouldn't RP anymore...

If I own up she'll freak out but I have a life and friends here.

So my friends, if I tell her I love her, is this lying worth it?

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 Post subject: Re: Double life
PostPosted: Sun Dec 04, 2011 7:32 am 
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We're definitely worth it! :remygrin:


Just a question though. Has she ever chatted on here? Maybe if she experienced RP and the chats, she might change her mind and you wouldn't have to lie to her. Hell, she might even want to RP herself! :cheeky:

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 Post subject: Re: Double life
PostPosted: Sun Dec 04, 2011 8:51 pm 

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Hi from someone that knows what you're going through, too well.

The issue at the heart of all of this is trust, as in whether she trusts you, and whether you're trustworthy. Specifically, if you're cheating on her, that's bad. However, if she's jealous just because of an in-game RP relationship, that's also not good, obviously. Either way, what you need to do is instead of going behind her back (which is going to blow up in your face if she finds out and fester in your heart if you don't), talk to her — you should express why Skyrates and the community is important to you, and she'll express what she's worried about, and you two need to work it out like adults who love each other (or at least, have a working relationship). Invite her to participate (though it might not be her thing). But assure her that this is a game and while it is important, you are not going to run away with anyone you meet on Skyrates (unless you are).

Also, none of this applies if you don't care for the relationship, or she doesn't care, in which you might be in a relationship for the wrong reasons and it will probably end rather shortly.


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 Post subject: Re: Double life
PostPosted: Sun Dec 11, 2011 9:33 pm 
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First, know which is more important to you. Whether that's your girlfriend or your online friends, let her know that you'll do what it takes to keep that priority. See if you can make it work, but ultimately you have to be prepared to lose one or the other.


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 Post subject: Re: Double life
PostPosted: Mon Dec 12, 2011 8:14 am 
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Talon Karrde wrote:
The issue at the heart of all of this is trust, as in whether she trusts you, and whether you're trustworthy.
Eskay wrote:
First, know which is more important to you. Whether that's your girlfriend or your online friends, let her know that you'll do what it takes to keep that priority.
Both of these fine chaps have said it well.
Personally, I'd err on the side of RL relationships. Online friends are only as reliable as your internet connection and can't/won't be there when you're in greatest need of an understanding ear, a lift home or a well aimed dope slap.


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 Post subject: Re: Double life
PostPosted: Wed Apr 18, 2012 10:29 pm 

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I think she's overreacting. It's not worth it, I mean your obsession with RP. Maybe you should talk to her and explain her that your relationships is the matter your your prime concern and RP is just a way for you to have some fun

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 Post subject: Re: Double life
PostPosted: Thu Apr 19, 2012 5:41 am 
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I think, as someone who's had someone cheat on him through text. It depends very much on how you chat with these induviduals. Even through chat or maybe through PMs. Since we obviously have no clue what you do, I doubt any of us can judge the situation accordingly.

There's a difference between going "/me snuggles vera!" and confessing love and sexual intent through chat and following up on those.

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 Post subject: Re: Double life
PostPosted: Sat May 12, 2012 5:24 pm 
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Argyle wrote:
There's a difference between going "/me snuggles vera!" and confessing love and sexual intent through chat and following up on those.


Is it a fine line?

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 Post subject: Re: Double life
PostPosted: Sun May 13, 2012 12:08 am 
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Turbo Lance wrote:
Is it a fine line?


About as fine as your receding hairline.

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